Live now while you dream big

Yunno, life is short...

Hey, quick question. Do you have big dreams?

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Yunno, life is short, and I believe having dreams makes it worth living. It gives you something to believe in, to hope for. Then, finally achieving those dreams, comes with a great sense of fulfilment & confidence. You become an inspiration, creating a ray of hope in the life of others. Giving them confidence to believe in their own dreams.

But how big are your dreams? How much do you believe in them?

Frankly, I'm a big dreamer. I've always had the silliest, wildest, craziest of crazy dreams, ever. I can't even openly talk about all of them. Some of them are way too big that they scare the shit out of me, sometimes.

But there's this dream. This crazy dream that I fantasized about from childhood till date.

This dream came about as a result of watching too many biopics. I was obsessed with biopics, and the wonderful stories they tell. My obsession—or shall I call it passion? Whatever it was, caused me to dream of being great. Not just great, but also doing something (spectacular) for this world. My story would be inspiring, wonderful, bla bla, that Hollywood won't be able to resist making an epic biopic about it. So I thought.

Talk about crazy dreams? This is definitely one:-)

No matter how crazy, my dreams are VALID and so are yours.

However, working towards achieving one's dream isn't all that easy-peasy. I believe it's worth the shot. I mean, what's there to lose, really? What's the worst that could happen?

"Oh, what if I fall? But darling, what if you fly?"

The cost of big dreams.

I heard from an influencer, Kamsi Nnamani, on youtube that dreaming big is FREE.

And that's true. Think about it, the act of envisioning a dream is totally free. Nobody is gonna charge you—or beat you, even—for it, even if it may seem like you're being delusional.

I mean, it's your "dreaming", not theirs. Duh!

Although dreaming big is free, big dreams come with a cost. There's often a price to pay or sacrifice(s) to make. Your dreams don't just magically happen—or maybe they would. Who knows?

Well, there's still the cost of believing:

How much do you believe in the possibility of your dream?

If you believe it, how do you think you can achieve it?

Are there steps you need to take, or goals you need to set? Or habits you need to change or adapt?

Then when we talk about sacrifices, you're either sacrificing time, effort, money and so forth.

That's not all, I haven't even mentioned the obstacles: Doubts, fear, imposter syndrome, anxiety, village people, Nigeria's wahala, the external/internal voices that tell you, "you can't do it." The list goes on and on.

But I always keep this in mind: My dreams (no matter how delusional) are realities, my realities, that'll unfold in due time. I dream it possible, it would come to pass. That's all. Infact, I even have a higher backing, and no village people or Nigeria's hullabaloos formed against me will prosper. Isé!

Anyhoo…

Lately, I've been more introspective, than ever before. And in those moments of self reflection, I discovered something interesting. An obstacle (not in the list above). Yes, that's trying to hinder my progress. I did some digging, and figured there's even a name for it. It's called "Destination Addiction Syndrome".

What does it mean?

In simple terms, it's a perception that success is a destination. A belief that the happiness/success you seek isn't where you are now, but is in a time frame or place. It's a hindrance of success. An enemy you should be on a lookout for.

For me, it has also become, sort of, a coping mechanism. Where I have this perception that when my dreams finally "fall on my head”, things are gonna be all right. So, I teach my mind to believe this. Then it learns to fantasize about my dream life, when the present is ugly. Now, it's a way of making me feel good, when the streets are rough and ugly.

I've become addicted to this process.In the sense that, I can't help it when my mind leaves the present, and zones out. I feel it might take awhile for my mind to unlearn this toxic habit, though.

But—

With intentionality & determination, I'll get there. They'll also be needed as I learn the ropes of living life to the fullest.

Truth is, instead of surviving and avoiding my realities, I want to really live.

Live Now!

Tomorrow isn't guaranteed. Does tomorrow even exist? But today is here, at my disposal. Today is the chance I have, to make my dreams a reality. The decisions, choices & habits I make today, are the little things that eventually add up to determine tomorrow.

I may not be somewhere in France now, but I want to wake up every morning to rays of the sun on my face and enthusiasm swelling in my heart. I'm tired of no-routine-just-through-the-day, struggling to get out of bed and dragging my feet all day.

I want to feel happy and energetic in the mornings. Setting goals, hydrating regularly, working out; eating healthy meals, dancing silly to my favorite songs, laughing hard, crying hard, loving hard, and most importantly living without regrets.

"I want to create a beautiful life for myself because I deserve it.”

I deserve a beautiful life. You deserve a beautiful life. And we can create that beautiful life.

It all starts in the mind. First, open it up to see the beauty & possibilities all around you. I believe that's a great start to living and dreaming big.

I hear there are people who don't believe in having dreams. That they just let life happen. Oh well.

If you let yourself dream big for a second, what's the worst that could happen?

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Brain dump!🧠

This is a segment of the newsletter where I “dump” resource materials that I either got insights from, or enjoyed reading during the week. Do check them out!

What I've been reading?📚

• I found this detailed article that about "DESTINATION ADDICTION SYNDROME" https://www.linkedin.com/pulse/destination-addiction-syndrome-simmi-nanda

• I wanted to learn how to live life, so I asked google. Here's what I found: https://personalexcellence.co/blog/101-ways-to-live-your-life-to-the-fullest/

What I've been watching?📺

Korty's youtube channel. There's a lot to say about it, but here's a recent video from her channel that I've been watching: https://youtu.be/cdd20QZXOxw

What I've been listening to?🎧

After listening to depressing tales on the news recently, I've had this song on repeat to shake off bad energy: https://youtu.be/ck1DwJyojW0

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